Human design relationships

The problems of most relationships are that they were never entered into correctly, and that the participants in the relationship don’t operate correctly as themselves. That really is what it’s all about. And it’s very important to grasp that. One of the most difficult things for me over the years is the awakening of people to their design, their nature, what’s correct for them, and for them to go through the dilemma of the realization that relationships that they’ve been involved with are not correct for them. And often that is very disturbing, obviously. These relationships can involve family, business, children, so forth and so on. And it’s not my business to want people to revamp and distort their lives. I’m simply concerned about them being correct.

But when we come to speaking about partnership, the best partnerships are the ones that you’re going to enter into correctly as yourself. And that the best way to maintain a relationship or to develop a relationship or to have a relationship flower is to respect the nature of the other being. The most important thing that one learnsabout mechanics is that you can’t change anyone. You can condition them; but you cannot change them. And the moment that one realizes that your relationship is not going to get better if you change or the other changes, you’re already on your way.

It’s one of the essentials of this knowledge is to see that regardless of what the external conditions are, whether that has to do with your personal relationship with friend or colleague or child, or whatever it may be, all of it is about the correctness that you bring to that relationship. If you’re correct in that relationship then that relationship is going to work for you. If you’re a generator and somebody comes to you and asks you if want to be with them and you go ahunh, then that relationship is going to be correct for you.

I’m not saying, by the way, that that relationship is going to be perfect, that it’s going to be nothing but sweetness and roses. It’s not about that. It is about the correctness of it. If you’re a third line being and you enter into a relationship correctly, in all likelihood there’s going to be problems because you’re a third line being. You’re there to discover what doesn’t work. And the complexity of relationships between human beings is vast, there are so many things that be found that do not work. But it doesn’t mean that the relationship was not correct. If you entered into it correctly, the relationship is going to be precisely what it it’s meant to be.

- Ra Uru Hu